Terms and Conditions

This website could contain sensitive content. To use this site, you must be at least 18 years old. 

The purpose of this website is to allow our users to exercise their rights under the First Amendment and raise their voices against domestic violence. This means you can use this site to share your thoughts, views, comments, stories and opinions with the world. However, the rights established by the First Amendment are not unlimited. We therefore require you to comply with the following standards:

— Submissions must be factually true. Publishing false statements can, depending on other factors, subject the author to significant civil and/or criminal liability. Only post factually true information, or matters of personal opinion which are clearly identified as such.

— By posting any content on HesAnAbuser.com, you represent and warrant that your submission is factually true, and not unlawful (i.e., not an invasion of privacy, defamatory, or malicious).

— Submissions must be fair and not misleading. In other words, don’t leave out important details that make your story misleading.

— Please provide us with your real contact info (name/email). As a general rule, we will protect the identity of our users to the fullest extent permitted by law, but we may be required to release information when served with a valid subpoena or court order. In the event that your abuser requests that we remove your post, we will contact you first for your safety and give you the option to have the post taken down. 

You must also comply with the following standards:

— Do not post false, defamatory, or otherwise unlawful material. You are legally responsible for your words, so please don’t lie. 

— Do not post material that violates another person’s intellectual property rights (copyrights, etc.). 

— Do not post nudity, pornography or obscenity, including but not limited to “revenge porn”. 

— Refrain from profanity/vulgarity.

— Do not post threats of violence/harm. 

— Do not post images of minor children. WE WILL NOT PUBLISH PHOTOS OF CHILDREN. If a child is in the image, please blur or mark up their face prior to submitting it. 

— Do not post hate speech such as comments attacking other people for their sexual orientation, gender identity, race, religion, national origin, or physical/mental disability, except when necessary to the story (i.e., "Can you believe he said this about this group of people?")

— Do not bully or harass anyone (criticism is OK when warranted, but please exercise restraint and common decency). 

— NEVER encourage any form of self-harm (cutting/suicide, etc.) 

As a matter of policy, we will remove any content from this site that we determine, in our sole editorial discretion, to be unlawful, obscene, inappropriate, or unduly offensive. It is our policy to comply with any valid/lawful court orders, however we can’t promise that we will always comply with every order or judgment we receive. Also, to avoid any confusion caused by cases such as Barnes v. Yahoo!, Inc., 570 F.3d 1096 (9th Cir. 2009), nothing in our Terms of Service may be construed as a promise to remove any content.

We can and will remove content that we believe, in our sole editorial discretion, should not be on our site. However, unless you have obtained a valid court order proving that something in a post is false, please do NOT ask us to remove content on the grounds that it is false. We are not the truth police and will not remove content just because someone has made an unverified claim that a post is false. Disputes over the accuracy of content posted on HesAnAbuser.com should be resolved in court between the author of the post and the subject of the post. It is not necessary, and not appropriate, to name us as a party in such a case.

Notwithstanding the above, the images, text, documents, comments and graphics published at HesAnAbuser.com are NOT verified for accuracy. We do not fact-check posts or comments submitted by users and cannot ensure the accuracy of any content presented on HesAnAbuser.com by third parties. Content appearing on this site may contain rumors, speculation, assumptions, opinions and other unverified information from our users. Because they are not verified, postings may contain erroneous or inaccurate information. HesAnAbuser.com makes no representation or warranty as to the accuracy, completeness or authenticity of the information or opinions appearing on HesAnAbuser.com. We will not debate the truth of the post with you. Survivor accounts will always be given deference. 

Any rude or ridiculous communications sent to us for the purpose of removing content will be placed on our Wall of Shame. 

By posting material on HesAnAbuser.com, you grant to us an irrevocable, perpetual, fully-paid, worldwide exclusive license to use, copy, perform, display and distribute such information and content and to prepare derivative works of, or incorporate into other works, such information and content, and to grant and authorize sublicenses of the foregoing.

You represent and warrant that the Content you submit is an original work by you, that you own or control 100% of the rights in and to your Content and the rights granted to HesAnAbuser.com in this license, and such rights are and shall be free and clear of any and all claims, rights and obligations; and that you have the right to grant to HesAnAbuser.com the rights granted to us in this license, you do not require the consent of any third party and that there is no contract with any third party that could in any way interfere with HesAnAbuser.com's rights under this license or require any payment to be made to anyone by HesAnAbuser.com.

You hereby expressly waive, to the fullest extent permitted by law, any so-called ‘moral rights’ which may now or may hereafter be recognized by legislative enactment or otherwise at law or in equity with respect to the Content.

Although we reserve the right to remove content at any time and for any reason, we generally do not remove content when asked by a person claiming to be the original author. We cannot verify claims of authorship and therefore will usually not remove content merely because a person claiming to be the original author asks us to remove something.

All written submissions on this site are from third parties and not from HesAnAbuser.com. HesAnAbuser.com is not responsible for, and does not endorse, verify, or ratify any of the written opinions and/or content submitted by third parties. 

These terms constitute a legal agreement between you and HesAnAbuser.com. These terms are not intended to be, and shall not be, enforceable by any third party/parties.

If you do not agree with any of these Terms of Use please do not use this site. By using this site you will be deemed to have irrevocably agreed to these terms.

47 U.S.C. § 230(d) requires the provider of an “interactive computer service” (such as a website) to “notify [each] customer that parental control protections (such as computer hardware, software, or filtering services) are commercially available that may assist the customer in limiting access to material that is harmful to minors.” 

Pursuant to this requirement, if you are a parent and you are interested in obtaining commercial tools to help you limit access to material that is harmful to minors, you can find a list of such tools here.